5 Steps to Letting Go of a Relationship
1.Take an inventory of the pluses of your relationship. You don’t want to be like those folks who end up getting married and divorced with the same person over and over! So, write down all of the things you like, appreciate and admire about the other person.
2.Now write all of the things you don’t like. Make a detailed list of all of the ways the other person has hurt you, scared you, betrayed you or let you down. Again, don’t hold back—get it all out. This is where you are “examining your wounds,” and it is absolutely essential.
3.Letting go of a relationship has a lot to do with grieving. As a matter of fact, grieving is letting go, just as forgiveness is letting go of anger. Learn how to move through the 7 stages of by clicking Here.
4.A lot of times when someone is moving out of your life, it’s not them you’re having trouble letting go of—it’s the dream of who you thought they were, and what you hoped to have with them. You’re also letting go of who you were in that relationship. We’re a little (or a lot) different in each of our relationships, so when one of them ends, we’re giving up that part of us that showed up only with that person. Try writing about these…your dream of what you wanted the relationship to be, and who you were in the relationship. That’s what you’re really letting go of.
5.Develop a picture in your mind of “you on the other side of the relationship” that is ending. That’s where you’re headed, and if it just looks like a bad movie, you will have a lot of trouble letting go. Keep working at it until you can begin imagining yourself doing well, grieving if you need to, feeling better, and moving on with the process of creating a good life for yourself.
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